The four stages of pregnancy - OR - moving into a new house

I have decided that getting a new house is a lot like having a baby.

While you are in the planning stages, the pregnancy, as it were, there is a lot of anticipation, nervousness and and excitement. There is a lot of planning and dreaming and all of it is thrilling.

Then you have hours of pain and hard labor (when you swear you will NEVER DO IT AGAIN, but somehow this is easily forgotten within a few months).

This is followed by relief and euphoria - you did it! It is done! You have your prize.

Finally, there is a lifetime of maintenance and upkeep.

For us, the water has broken and I am having early contractions (small pains dealing with contractors!). We will move in at the end of the month - when the hard labor begins.

Hypocrisy and the lewd act

Larry Craig.

Larry, Larry, Larry.

If I were accused of something which I thought was morally reprehensible and that I know I didn't do, I would fight the accusation tooth and nail. I am not saying that the man INTENDED to solicit sex in the bathroom at the airport. It is possible that the guy just made a number of specific unusual movements and it was all coincidental. But, if Larry Craig's actions WERE simply coincidence, why did he plead to a lesser charge with the hopes that it would all "just go away?" This leads me to believe that he DID solicit sex in that bathroom.

So let's suppose he DID do that of which he is accused. So what? The guy didn't offer money for sex. He made a couple of hand and foot gestures which apparently means, "I'm available." He didn't PAY for sex. He didn't even ENGAGE in sex. Had he got that far, I suppose some kind of "lewd act" charge could have been levied.

But he DID get arrested, and he did plead guilty. And instead of apologizing to his constituents (and his wife) for the deed and the arrest, he is only worried about being thought gay. Larry, that's NOT what you need to worry about!

It is the hypocrisy that makes me mad. Based on his voting record, and his religious background, he apparently believes that to be a homosexual is (a) a choice and (b) a sin. But based on his actions, he IS gay, and seemingly cannot control his actions, or else he CHOOSES to sin. If he believes sexual acts with another man is SO wrong, why doesn't he avoid them?

He does not avoid them because being gay is NOT a choice. And one of the really awful things here is that if he just dropped religious trappings and accepted himself as he really is, he wouldn't HAVE to resort to anonymous sex in a public bathroom at an airport. He could have a loving fulfilling relationship.

A person doesn't choose to be gay, just as a person doesn't choose to have a blood disorder, a specific eye color or a smattering of freckles. And BEING gay should no more be a sin than having a blood disorder, specific eye color or freckles is a sin.

When I was a child, my mother told me of a time when women had few rights and were treated like second class citizens. I was flabberghasted to think that women did not have equal rights from the beginning of time.

As my children are growing up, I tell them about a time not long ago when people were treated unfairly because of the color of their skin. My kids are horrified to think that segregation existed.

I look forward to a time when MY kids can tell THEIR kids about THIS time in history. A time when people are treated unfairly because they are gay... and my grandchildren will be just as disgusted by this news as I was at the thought of sexism, and as my children are now by the idea of segregation.

So Larry, get over yourself. Spread the word among your religious right. Let them know that homosexuality is NOT wrong, it is NOT a sin. Read your bible more carefully, as I think you will find your god will love you and accept you no matter what. Be true to yourself, Larry. Let go of the lies and revel in the joy of honesty. You will like yourself more. I am pretty sure.